Being different or is it so different???

I have almost lived my entire maiden life at my maternal grandparent place which is not considered the proper thing to do in Indian society.I have found it to be a topic of discussion by some group of people.Over the years they have used it to rub my nose into it.I confess i have let it bother me for few of these times and today I felt the need to analyze it.This being brought by an incident.It so happened .I met one of my relatives after 10-15 years gap.In mood to talk atleast about something ,I remarked about not meeting them for these many year.To my utter confusion the answer was somewhat so out of context atleast that is what I thought at that time.It was something along the line "if you live at your -in laws this is what happens.I did not understand it then but the lines came back to me after few hours and enlightment dawned.I have never understood what the fuss is about till now.Each of us have different kind of live-in relationship and I happen to be living with an ever loving family maybe just not the expected set.Why have this always been contentious,brought up by foes whenever a need arose to attack our family,brought up by family when they need to score a point.As if its a shame which is seared forever."Oh you know this is actually not done but they are different"Not even understanding it completely,I felt it was ridiculous to form a sentence on it and now living so far away from India ,adapting to a diffrent culture, I find it ludicrous that someone still thinks about it and still remarks on it.I wonder if I meet them next time, would I be able to say these words "Grow up darling!! these things are petty matters ,much suitable for an illiterate mind which I hope you are not till now". I have moved too far in this walk of fame to let it affect me .Ghosts have been laid to rest long back ago.But really can I expect some intelligent topics of discussion from our female population or is it too much to ask for????or I will always be surprised like when I heard an educated woman bragging about bearing sons .In this span shouldn't some evolution or revolution be effected.

Taaare Zameen Par

TZP brought so many memories back.It brought back the ache which I felt each time my brother was ridiculed.Though we never gave it a scientific name ,my brother struggled with studies ,spellings and structure of sentences.He tried his best and as a result became increasingly frustrated and at a point just gave up.We too tried but now watch helplessely as he struggles to make something out of himself.He is a gem of person,good physique ,tall and dark but immature.I have seen him helping many but not appreciated by any,Sometimes to hide the pain I too have joined the bandwagon and ridiculed him.Aamir Khan depicted this hapless person I was but in the periphary doing nothing concrete but just scanning endlessly at the horizon for that inspring figure who could get through him but none came.Each Year it was the same bunch of desperate housewives with sensitivity of a cactus.

Many have thrown words of wisdom in the ring about education in India.It has been pointed out to me that Indian education does not believe in application of knowledge but just knowing the knowledge.More or less I agree and I shift blame towards the an area which is not seen as a highly probable cause.Indian education by and large is propelled by female teachers who would not have taken teaching as a career,had it not been the second best thing to do after failing in whatever they were striving for or those who were not ambitious enough and found this to be something which can be easily make money with perks of working lady in family life.It became a tool in hand of those dwarfed mindset which said "I belong to this rich family but now I am married into this poor family and what to do I have to work".They took their domesticated mindset into an arena which should have been razor sharp technology.In Indian context its really hard to rise above the coutless saas-bahu saga,the rich-poor divide and basically an insecure womanhood. Their unplesant personality fails to be sensitive towards the need of child but ultimately they get this limitless power to make them or break them.I dont know how a frustrated snobbish individual gets to safekeep the future of our country.

In my entire school life I have looked in awe at only two gurus.One my father,the amazement which I felt when any type of problems would become an easy exercise when he explained.He taught me to value knowldege above money.And the other, a history teacher, Sagarika Ghosh.If teachers can be personified I would choose her,simple mild and yet firm.Her melodious voice imprinted any history lesson in mind forever without help from books.A red bindi,a bengali kada and a starched Dhaka sari had that power to captivate me into respecting her.She told us she always knew she wanted to be a teacher.A humble aim but she worked hard towards it and it showed in her calm satiated aura.I have always wanted to scream out loud "Dont make teaching into just another profession,this line of work should be restricted to only those who love children and understand them.Not every Tom Dick and Harry should be allowed to do it".This is what I felt when I was in school and this is what I feel TZP is trying to reinforce. We need a change badly, from medicore to shining,in this field.